You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring—and the challenges that come with it.
In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open our eyes to something we are often blind to. They address questions like:
- “Why are guys so visual—and what does that mean, anyway?”
- “How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?”
- “How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?”
- “If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?”
- “My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?”
- “How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?”
Through the compassion and candor in this book, we can learn what men have long wished we knew (but didn’t know how to explain)—and see the difference it makes when we do!
**I received a copy of this book from Blogging for Books in exchange for my honest review. All opinions expressed are my own.**
Ever wonder what the phrase “Men are visual” really means? Being a woman, I never really understood what that meant. But it was that question that this book promised to answer. And being curious, I knew it was one that I wanted to pick up.
There are a few things that this book does really well. First of all, within the first chapter, my question was answered… and honestly I was amazed at what that common phrase really means for the men in our lives. The explanations of what that phrase means are quite well done and I feel like while I can’t relate, the book accomplished it’s purpose and I would say that I understand it.
Also, I think this book does a wonderful job of moving in a direction and looks at what the visual nature of men really means for them and how that affects us. That visual nature means that there are particular responsibilities placed on women. If you’ve followed any of the buzz around this book, you’ll find the authors fielding a number of attacks on that one point. Honestly, the authors expected that and mentions those arguments in the book. With that in mind, this is a book that may need to be read wtih a lot of prayer. Some of these truths are difficult to read about. But, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross present them tacfully and thoughtfully.
However, that same note is one of my complaints about the book. I feel like so much of it was spent on cautionary statements. I can see where they were needed and I didn’t totally mind it. I just felt like the book was a bit heavy on those cautions and would have liked to have spend a bit more time on the other aspects the book has to offer.
And on a personal note: I read this book side-by-side with my husband. We read a chapter a day, and while this book is certainly designed to be read by women, he enjoyed it as well and it did give room for some good discussions between us. With that said, I have to agree with the authors that for some women, it may not be wise to jump into those discussions. But, in a relationship where husband and wife have good communication skills and can handle difficult conversations well, this is something that can help the information in the book become a bit more relevant.